I'm humbled at peoples concern and best wishes, and sad at such a bad experience quoted by samuria. I like to think this is very rare indeed. Mrs P, now off life-support, remains very weak and sometime a little incoherent which I shouldn't be surprised about, physio was very pleased with her this morning, and about to be discharged from ICU to a specialist stroke ward which we're lucky enough to have at Watford. I'm afraid her work is about to start.
Experience; is something you gain, just after you needed it most.
When faced with two choices, simply toss a coin. It works not because it settles the question for you. But because in that brief moment while the coin is in the air. You suddenly know what you are hoping for.