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Why do we take an instant dislike to some people?

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Why do we take an instant dislike to some people?

Picking up from an observation made on another thread, it's always puzzled me why some of us take an instant dislike to certain people. I most definitely do, and not only from their writings or press reports, but also from meeting or seeing them in person. Maybe it's primeval or genetic, that in some strange way our long hidden instincts tell us they are in part from a different tribe of human evolution.

Unreasonable in this day and age but it cannot be denied that this does happen from time to time only now, we call it being a good judge of character..... or not as the case may be.

Strange or what.

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Re: Why do we take an instant dislike to some people?

So do you like me then or not ?

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Re: Why do we take an instant dislike to some people?

@Minivanman in answer to your post title question....

 

I`m not telling you... !  Cheesy

 

@gleneagles   in answer to your post

 

I`m not telling you .... !   Cheesy

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Re: Why do we take an instant dislike to some people?

The U3A magazine, Third Age Matters, has a tale of Gordon Brown being asked by a colleague, why people took an instant dislike to him. Reply, "It saves time".

No one has to agree with my opinion, but in the time I have left a miracle would be nice.
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Re: Why do we take an instant dislike to some people?

@shutter

Don't be shy.

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Re: Why do we take an instant dislike to some people?

I suspect we have preconcieved ideas of those we meet based on previous experiences or things we have been told by other who we trust, such as friends or relatives.

I guess we have all come across people who dislike a whole group of people simply because they are from a different country or religion, we are more likely to like someone who has similar interests to us or from our own area.

So in some cases we take a instant dislike, some times we are indifferent until we get to know them, and we can like someone until they say or do something against our beliefs and this could result in not liking them.

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Re: Why do we take an instant dislike to some people?

I recognise the situations you describe, many formed as a result of the way were socialised but what I'm really referring to are those outside of that who for no rhyme or reason we dislike. Should we say so of course then we are deemed to be uncharitable whereas in truth there are some base instincts at work that override that.

Have we not all been there? 

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Re: Why do we take an instant dislike to some people?

@Minivanman

instinct .....dictionary meaning......inborn tendency to behave in a certain way.

If we use that definition it could explain the answer to your question but raises another question, can we trust our instincts ?

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All views expressed are my own but you can express them too if you want to be right about everything like I am.
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Re: Why do we take an instant dislike to some people?

Perhaps some people are just instantly dislikeable?

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Re: Why do we take an instant dislike to some people?

I like everyone.

Even the people I hate.

 

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Re: Why do we take an instant dislike to some people?

I remember once being up for a job, been through 3 sets of interviews. (over a month)
Last meeting, a guy walks in, takes one look at me and leaves. I didn't get the job. I can only assume based on that guy.

Something like that is very BAD, you don't have to like someone to work with them. I hated several of my bosses over the years, pencil pushes the lot of them, no tech background, but I still worked for them.
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Re: Why do we take an instant dislike to some people?


HairyMcbiker wrote:
Last meeting, a guy walks in, takes one look at me and leaves. ...

Imagine how that would make you or indeed anyone feel, that is simply a horrible way to treat anyone. If you not getting that job was down to this single act then maybe it's just as well you didn't get it; who'd want a bigoted creep like that as a boss!

 

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I trust you looked nothing like your avatar HairyMcbiker, only that would explain it! Roll eyes

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Re: Why do we take an instant dislike to some people?


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Your old man sounds a lot like me. I can pick out someones character and personallity within seconds and evaluate them as a friend or foe.

 

I spent many years being isolated from others and I think that may have a part to play in it. Well socialised people don't seem to be as good at picking out people who are a potential threat / bad character. My missus is utterly hopeless at it and has dropped us in the smelly stuff several times - once falling victim to her own father stitching up for money - I told her he would, she guaranteed me he wouldn't... and then he did... and then tried to sell the family home from under her (and her siblings) feet - despite the fact they jointly own half of it. Even now she'll still say my instincts are bad though - doesn't matter that I've not once yet been wrong - she just won't listen to me because she doesn't want to be wrong or acknowledge that she is.

I love our little boy to bits but he has her fathers face and I already have a hunch that in the future he's going to stitch a few people up.

 

At the end of the day though its all relative isn't it. Hard people tend to hang around with other hard people who are "good people" to them. Non thug type people tend to hang out with non thug type people- again to each other they're ok.. but if the two types have to deal with each other you'll usually see each side claiming that the other is something offensive. If you're one of those types in the middle then both types will probably seem ok to you.

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