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Wedding pay!

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Wedding pay!

A couple are charging their guests £150 to attend their 3-day-event wedding citing it as a business model. Apparently it includes all food and drink (except you need to bring your own drink for the other two days).

 

I have been to some weddings where it's been a long journey and with hotel and food costs could rise to more than £150 especially for more than the one night. But still not sure I would want to be 'charged' for attending, though. Do they still expect a gift?

 

What do others think?

 

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I simply wouldn't attend.

I try to avoid weddings at all costs, as the outmoded and pointless concept they are, and any religious nonsense guarantees my non attendance...

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Re: Wedding pay!

That's the touch paper lit........

 

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If someone wants to have a lavish do - fine - but don't expect me to help pay for it.  Shocked

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I quite liked this comment 

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Re: Wedding pay!

My daughter and fiancé are currently in the early stages of planning their wedding.

I'm guessing it's going to cost me a little more than £150 along with compulsory attendance.

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Congrats to them both.

I assume mine and @dvorak's invites are in the postCheesy

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Re: Wedding pay!

One thing comes to mind...

 

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Re: Wedding pay!


Strat wrote:

My daughter and fiancé are currently in the early stages of planning their wedding.

I'm guessing it's going to cost me a little more than £150 along with compulsory attendance.


If we are going with tradition then you should be planning their big day not them lol. Like Mav though congrats to them both. Hope they have a great day and a happy marriage.

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Mixed views on this one to be honest.

No I don't agree that guests should have to stump up £150 to attend their friend / families wedding. It's taking the P isn't it.

With that said, the last wedding I went to was in 2010 and was that of a mate. As a wedding gift to him and his wife I stuffed their card with £150 cash so is it fair of me to say its wrong?

Thing is there will be guests that would have trouble finding the money. Back then I had it, now I couldn't. I guess if everyone you plan on inviting agrees to it then its not a problem but I couldn't personally even think of trying it on like that.

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My daughter and fiancé are currently in the early stages of planning their wedding.

I'm guessing it's going to cost me a little more than £150 along with compulsory attendance.

@Strat I can confirm thatGrin My eldest daughter got married 3 years ago and the other one is planning to marry next May!  Seeing as they are both into their 30s I agreed with them that I would give them a lump sum to do with as they wish.

At least that means I know what this next wedding is going to costSmiley

...and you're right, attendance is compulsoryGrin

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No I would not go, personally it's a cheek to specify a sum of money.

It is acceptable to ask guests for a present or money but not specify a figure.

Some guests are in a better financial position than others would you want to exclude a good friend from your wedding because they could not afford to give you an expensive gift ?

 

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@MisterW - hope you're adjusting for inflation Wink

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Yes @7up, you spent the same amount of money. For me, the big moral difference is it was your choice to do so and it wasn't compulsory. Good on you, you did. I asked a friend how much his wedding cost and was a bit shocked and surprised at the cost.

Like all things in life, you have to play fair and expect to spend money buying a gift. I am sure there are people who expect everything for free.

The last wedding I went to, they created a shopping list and sent a URL of what they wanted of a major department store (I'd better say that otherwise I'm advertising Tongue). Click on URL, select what you want to get them, put your payment details in. Charges you, it gets delivered to their house and the items people get are knocked off the list so they don't get duplicate items.

I think that is a pretty good system Cool

EDIT: Congrats @Strat.

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Strat if you've not already discovered it "Weddings add a zero to the price."

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