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Useful app or a step too far?

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Useful app or a step too far?

New app tracks children's phone use
The item shown on BBC News this morning suggested it could be used to monitor teenagers. My thought is that by teenage years it's a bit late to start monitoring and you have to give some trust as they grow up into the adult world.
For younger children I think it could be useful in helping to ensure that they don't get embroiled in something harmful or dangerous and to keep an eye on their surfing habits.

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Re: Useful app or a step too far?

Yup same thoughts here. Once they're 14 / 15 they're starting to understand the world and you need to start letting them have more freedom not trying to restrict it as much as possible (like my power hungry parent did).
Little kids yes, you have to protect them from the rest of the world and themselves but teenagers need to be trusted a bit more. They will make mistakes along the way but thats part of life.
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I use various things to restric my kids access to stuff but far from being for their protection its for mine.
theres a fine line between whats good for them and whats bad for me as a parent, if they want ot use the internet I pay for to harras someone online from home its me that ends up in the dock for failing to prevent that action ......
as with anything there is always another side to why some people choose to act in certain ways, me I like to give my kids limited freedom, when there not at home they can do whatever they like on somoen elses internet bcause its not my responcibility !!!!!!!
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I used to monitor the cache log to see what my kids were getting up to: it was the usual social sites, some porn and some anarchy. Nothing too worrying. I've never told them they were monitored. They're now married with babies, they seem much more worried about the issue. Maybe I should now tell them they were monitored..
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mine know there restricted at home /on the kit I provide them with, however there also well aware of why and tend to be much more accepting of it than some kids I hear moaning their parents are doing it since someone was in the local rag over actions taken by kids on kit provided by them (a shock 5 year stretch for something your 17yr old kid did will do that though)  
no doubt my kids will grow up with far more knowledge than I have in methods of restricting stuff and how best to achieve it as they become parents, for me it was just something I did at first to protect them from the evils that pervade some parts of the net which will undoubtedly get worse as more deviant people take to making money out of sites hosted in lawless regions .....
right now I pay for software that allows me to manage the kit I provide them with including what they can access from it and who they can interact with via im/email/text/phone calls, there's no real problem with me adding someone to their contact list and I actively block things like facbook/twitter etc from being used on their mobiles or on the home network, then again their school gave them ipads and made them all sign up to facebook and twitter and a host of other spam troll bait sites, I have the ability to read any and all messages they send or receive (not that I could be bothered to do such a thing, who wants to read pages of infantile "leet speak")  and block any sender/receiver should the need arise all this has been done to protect them since they were in year 4 at primary school and the oldest is taking her exams this year and t he same restirctions will apply as long as I'm paying for the service(s) until their over 18 and no longer able to land me in the dock should they do something wrong, of course the downside is there protected perhaps a bit to much and never receive any spam or get trolled at home so that might be a bit of a shock in the future should they fall foul of something / someone
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